I remember the first time my kid told me about a new game he’d been playing online. He was so excited, rattling off the names of characters and friends, describing levels, missions, and everything else. But as he talked, I realized I had no idea what he was really engaging with. And while I loved seeing his enthusiasm, a little part of me wondered if I was missing something important.
In moments like these, it’s easy to feel out of our depth. The internet can be a fantastic place for kids to learn and connect, but as parents, we’re all a bit wary of the parts we can’t see. And that’s why it’s worth putting a few habits in place—simple, foundational steps that allow us to help them navigate this online world safely.
Here are key tips to get started:
Create Open Communication
Encourage an open dialogue with your kids about their online experiences. Start that dialogue! Ask them about their favorite apps, games, or websites. Really listen and ask follow-up questions. Make it as natural and frequent as discussing other important aspects of their day, like playtime or school. Let them know you’re there for them, that you love them and want what’s best for them, and that they can come to you with any concerns. This openness is key to building trust and staying aware of what they’re engaging with online.
Teach Them About Privacy
We discuss privacy in the real world, but the online world often complicates this idea. Their private self, our private space, private things we talk about at home – but not really shout out while shopping for groceries. It’s a learning process, filled with fun, funny and embarrassing experiences. Help your child understand the importance of privacy online. Start by explaining what online is, and how it is different from the real world. Discuss what personal information is and why it’s important not to share details like their full name, location, school, or age with strangers online.
Model Safe and Responsible Online Behavior
Children absorb habits by observing those around them, especially parents and caregivers. Show them the online habits you want them to adopt by being a role model for safe, responsible, and respectful digital conduct. Avoid oversharing personal information, demonstrate caution with the types of content you interact with, and practice kindness in all your online interactions. This includes thoughtful commenting, avoiding unnecessary arguments, and handling conflicts respectfully. Additionally, let your children see you making thoughtful choices about screen time, balancing your online and offline lives, and respecting others’ privacy. Modeling these behaviors will help your child understand what responsible online engagement looks like, teaching them by example to be considerate and cautious digital citizens.
Foster a Sense of Responsibility and Ownership
In the real world, our lives naturally intertwine with those of our children. We share cherished moments, guiding them, protecting them, and teaching them valuable life lessons. Our goal is to prepare them for independence, helping them gain the skills and awareness to care for themselves and those around them. While we can lay a foundation for safety, ultimately, they must grow into their own sense of responsibility—both online and offline. By teaching and modeling safe practices, we empower them to take ownership of their digital safety, so they’re prepared to protect themselves when it matters most.
Establish Agreements and Digital Contracts
Create agreements around device use that emphasize mutual understanding and responsibility. Sit down together to set specific boundaries for when and where devices can be used—such as keeping devices out of bedrooms at night or designating certain times as screen-free for family activities. By working together to establish these guidelines, you build a shared sense of commitment, helping children understand the importance of balanced and mindful device use. Remember, as parents, we are the ones guiding these boundaries, and our role is to support the structure we set together.
Be Mindful of Screen Time
Now that you’ve established boundaries, it’s essential to balance screen time with offline activities. Create a family schedule that incorporates both digital engagement and non-screen activities. Excessive screen time can negatively affect sleep, focus, and mood, so setting limits is crucial in encouraging a healthy mix of experiences.
Explore Apps and Websites Together
Take time each week to explore your child’s favorite apps and websites with them, especially social media. Focus on ensuring these platforms are age-appropriate and discuss ways to use them safely, like setting profiles to private. Remember, this isn’t about invading their privacy; it’s about helping them recognize, prevent, and handle any potential risks. Regularly make time to explore and review their digital space, ensuring safety as they evolve in their online habits.
Stay tuned for more tips throughout the month on how to help your family thrive in the digital world!
